About six months ago my life changed drastically and unexpectedly. The relationship I’d spent the last four years of my life in, that I’d sacrificed things for, that helped me grow in a many ways, that I’d planned my future around; came to a grinding, abrupt halt.
As I write this I am acutely aware of the fact that I am over that relationship, but I am not over the shock of that sudden upheaval. Not only did that relationship end, but so did my entire way of life. I lost my pet, I quit my job, I left my apartment (that we’d shared), I left my city. My entire world as I knew it ended. That is not a small quake in life, that is a full blown eruption of cataclysmic proportions.
Over the past six months I have had some very high highs and low lows, I’ve been to hell and back, and I’m here to tell you about it. I’m here to tell you what I’ve learned about me in the hopes that you’ll learn a little about you, too.
The road we’re on winds and winds. The journey is long.
Through my massive upheaval I’ve learned that minimalism can be applied in all areas of life, both externally and internally. And that it is not just about ‘having less’. The definition of minimalism for me, is to live life intentionally. To live each day, and make all decisions; with clear intent. To be ever questioning why. To get to the root cause of all things in your life. To know precisely why you do what you do, say what you say, and think what you think. To live in a sharp state of self awareness.
For me, minimalism directly relates to mindfulness. If you are mindful, self aware, and living intentionally, you are already minimizing. Minimalism to me does also mean having less in the physical world, but I’ll explore this concept of simplification from a wide range of perspectives.
The first step in creating a minimalist, clutter-free life, is to face the storm. The internal one. To face the darkness in your life. To look it in the face and realize it isn’t as scary as you’d once imagined. To accept the fact that life is about balance, and that without the darkness there is no light. Without the lows there are no highs.
You can throw away everything in your closet, sure. But without knowing why all that junk accumulated in the first place, and without understanding why you feel the urge to toss it all in the trash; you’re really just scratching the surface.
Let’s do better than that.
Bare Necessity Writer